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DayYou do not have to feel healed today. You only have to stay close to yourself.
Calm recovery tool
Count the streak. Calm the urge. Stay no contact.
A private breakup recovery workspace for the moment you want to text. Count your no-contact days, check the streak before you act, and turn one hard hour into visible progress. Free. No signup.
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Built for the urge
Use it before opening the chat
Progress you can see
Streaks, milestones, and resets
No contact tracker
No contact calculator
No contact after breakup
Breakup days calculator
Unsent letter to ex
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Start with the right tool
Three calm ways to protect the boundary
Start a private streak with daily check-ins, recovery notes, and visible milestones.
02 No contact calculator and counterEnter your last contact date, see your exact streak, and use the result as the main checkpoint before you text.
03 Pause before textingUse a 60-second reset before sending a message you may not actually want to send.
04 Understand the urgeLearn why you want to text your ex and what to do before sending anything.
05 No contact after breakupUse a simple rule, exception list, and tracker plan for the first weeks after a breakup.
I need help now
Before you text your ex, put the urge here for 60 seconds.
This is the quick pause between the impulse and the message. Name what triggered you, write the text here instead, and come back to your no-contact streak before deciding anything.
Breakup days calculator
How many days has it been since your breakup?
Enter your breakup date once and the tracker calculates your breakup day count automatically. It also tracks relationship length and no-contact days, so you can see progress without doing the math yourself.
No contact rule
Follow the no contact rule after a breakup
A visible streak can make the next hard hour easier. Use daily check-ins, milestone cards, and unsent letters to protect the boundary when the urge to text your ex gets loud.
Read the no contact rule guideUnsent letter to ex
Write the message without sending it
The unsent letter tool gives the feeling somewhere to go. Seal the letter privately or schedule it for 30 days later, when the moment has passed and you can read it with more distance.
Want to text your ex?
Pause before sending the message
The urge usually peaks, crests, and fades. Write the message in the unsent letter tool, wait, then decide from a calmer place.
Use the unsent letter toolNo contact day 7
The first week is a real milestone
Day 7 can feel unstable because the shock is wearing off. Track the win, keep the boundary, and make the progress visible.
Read the day 7 guideNo contact day 30
Start looking for patterns
By day 30, your check-ins can show what still triggers you and what has softened. Use the timeline as proof that healing is happening.
Read the day 30 guideBreakup recovery guide
No contact timeline: what the first milestones mean
The shock is still loud. Start the counter and write one sentence instead of reopening the conversation.
The first week is often the hardest. A milestone card can make the progress feel real.
Patterns become easier to see. Look back at your check-ins and notice what triggers have softened.
The story may still matter, but it no longer has to run the day. Keep what helped and leave the rest.